Life Transitions
Three C Coaching is your partner in navigating personal and professional transitions successfully through intentional action. Get Clarity, recognize Choice, and direct Change: what do you want most out of life, what are the possibilities, create a plan for your desired future, implement, act and redesign as necessary. Included below is a sample of life's most common transitions.
Beginning a new career or job: You are a beginner again. It is exciting and it feels intensely slow to be a beginner. Does this new role require a new level of leadership, self-direction, or is it a new industry? What new behaviors or skills are required of you? Do you have a plan to get these new skills? Do you know how your behavior must change to support your new leadership role? This is not merely a new job, this is more. There are many choices to assess, goals to clarify, a new environment to adjust to, new terrain to navigate...
Relocation: You are considering a move or you just made a move – you've relocated to a different or unfamiliar geographic location, maybe across the country. Or, maybe it's just far enough North, South, East, West of your last home, enough to feel like a much bigger move. You are starting over, meeting new friends, creating a new community, looking to find the best restaurants to the best drycleaner, a new doctor and dentist. All of this instability can create feelings of fear, doubt, loneliness, making it hard to focus at just the time when you need clear focus.
Becoming a Parent: Being a new parent can be exciting and completely overwhelming and everything in between. It is an enormous responsibility. You are exhausted. It's everything you expected and nothing you expected. How do you integrate a new baby into your already full life? How do you integrate the role of mom or dad into your already established identity? How do you retain your individuality, what makes you uniquely you, and let go of behaviors, ways of being that are no longer in alignment with your new role and responsibilities?
Becoming a Parent (again): Well just when you think you've got this parenting thing down, along comes another baby and surprise he/she is completely different from your first and this time, you've got another older child to take care of while learning a new baby. How do you incorporate the new baby into your already established routine with your older child? How do you help your older child continue to feel special? Do you have enough love to go around? They both need something at once, who do you help first? And, oh by the way when do you have time for yourself, for your spouse? You are exhausted and feeling overwhelmed.
New Mom/Dad Returning to Work: We already know that becoming a parent is a transition. Just when you get in the grove of understanding your infant, it is now time to return to work. This may be a welcome return and it may be a dreaded return. If it is a welcome return, some in your life may not understand your choice. You may begin to feel selfish or guilty. In either case, life as you have known it will change. Time is at a premium. Energy is at a premium. What is important? What is no longer important? What is your new routine? What resources do you need? Whose help do you need to enlist?
Mom/Dad Re-entering the Workforce: It's been quite a few years since you were last working in the world of corporate America. What has changed since you left? How have you changed? What new skills or behaviors are needed for you to be successful? What are your career goals? What fears, unknowns, doubts do you have? What resources do you need?
Navigating an Empty Nest: Your children are grown, off on their own. It may just be you now or it may be you and your spouse. You are excited for your children. You feel a sense of accomplishment. And, you feel unfocused, lost, lonely, without purpose somehow. For the last 18 years, your life has revolved around caring for your children. What now? Where to start?
Premarital: So now you are moving in together, sharing space on a full-time basis. You are trying to see if this relationship can withstand the peaks and valleys. The challenge may be everything from leaving clothes on the floor to not spending enough time with each other to opposing values. How well do you understand and appreciate differences? What are the deal breakers and where do you compromise?
Separation and Divorce: Your life has not ended, and yet it feels like your world has fallen apart at the seams. You may have initiated this change and then maybe not. It feels impossible to imagine the future. Where to start? Whether or not you initiated this change, there is loss and there will be times of loneliness, sadness, emptiness. And, this is a new beginning. You will move forward.
Grief/Loss: This is much more than feeling sad. It is loneliness, emptiness, isolation. It is paralyzing. You lost someone you love. It feels impossible to imagine the future. Know that there are predictable stages of loss, and that you are not alone. How can you best take care of yourself emotionally, spiritually, physically? You can move forward; You will move forward.